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Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Words that Resonate: Matt Walsh on Abstinence and Freedom

Following my friend Crystal's habit on her blog, I wanted to share a couple of quotes from a blog post I read on Facebook today.

A fan wrote in to Matt Walsh's blog about how his teacher made him "feel like an outcast" and "weird" by telling his class that abstinence is an "outdated" belief and that casual sex is possible outside of any really serious commitment. Matt's response was scathing, and in my opinion, absolutely dead-on.  Here are some excerpts:

" Man, that is weird. It’s also awesome, inspiring, courageous, and extraordinary. Not to mention, Jeremy, you’re doing the RIGHT thing. You’ve got more character than most adults in this country, and you should be commended for it."

Later on, discussing the experience of those who have participated in "casual" sex and are now married to a different partner, he said,

" Do you wish you could say that your spouse is the only person who has experienced these intimate, sacred moments with you? Are you proud that there are other men or women in the world who have seen this side of you? Are you satisfied that what you give to your spouse is now secondhand?

If they tell you they feel happy or neutral about the fact that they gave themselves to someone other than their spouse, you’re dealing with someone in a very dysfunctional marriage. Any honest person in a healthy relationship would tell you they’d erase those moments from their lives if they could. They can’t, of course. Nobody can. We can’t live in the past and harp on our mistakes, but this all leads to an important point: the myth of “casual sex” persists, even though many of us — millions and millions — have seen it for what it is. Marriage as an institution is in rough shape, but people still do get married in this country. That means millions have had to look at their spouse and say — probably silently in their own heads, deep in their subconscious — “I have nothing new to give to you.”

It’s a tragedy, really. It’s a shame. You deal with it and you move on, but “casual sex” has taken its chunk and you’ll never get it back."

 Like Jeremy, I have sometimes felt like an outcast for waiting, but deep in my heart, I know it's right, no matter how many people tell me I'm "outdated." Perhaps unlike Jeremy, I've wept before God at the crushing, tragic thought of being someone's "second"; in fact, just the thought of that eternity of comparison and insecurity has only strengthened my resolve to remain pure until marriage, and to look for another "weird" person like me to spend my life with. The older I get, the more I see that pleasing the Lord is worth more than all the acceptance in the world, and I've lived long enough to see that when I obey Him, the benefits of obedience prove the truth of every word God has ever said!

I don't want the grief and emptiness that comes when we don't take sexuality seriously, and I see that God doesn't want that for me, either....but as for these politically-correct "leaders of children," what is their motivation?

 I don't know Matt Walsh and I don't regularly read his blog, but on this point, anyway, I feel he deserves a hearty "AMEN"! You should go read the whole article here.